Creating an Autism-Friendly Christmas: A Guide for Families and Carers

Christmas is a season of joy, togetherness, and tradition, but for individuals on the autism spectrum, it can also bring challenges that may overshadow the festive spirit. As carers, parents, and loved ones, creating an autism-friendly Christmas can ensure everyone feels included, supported, and able to share in the joy of the season.



How Christmas Traditions Can Feel Overwhelming for Someone with Autism

Sensory Overload

Christmas often comes with flashing lights, loud carols, bustling crowds, and vibrant decorations. While these elements may feel festive to some, they can be overwhelming for someone with sensory sensitivities.



Changes to Routine

The holidays often disrupt daily schedules and routines, which can create unease or anxiety for individuals who thrive on consistency. Unexpected changes, even small ones, can be difficult to process.



Social Situations

Large gatherings are a hallmark of Christmas celebrations, but for those who find social interactions exhausting or stressful, these events can feel daunting. The pressure to engage with many people at once may be overwhelming.



Gift Giving

The tradition of gift-giving, while joyful for many, can be uncomfortable for some individuals with autism. The element of surprise or receiving unfamiliar presents might feel unsettling rather than exciting.



Food Preferences

Holiday feasts often feature rich, unfamiliar foods with strong smells or flavours, which may not appeal to someone with specific food preferences or sensory sensitivities.



Prepare and Organise Ahead of Time

Preparation is key to easing the transition into the Christmas season. By discussing plans early and tailoring celebrations to meet individual needs, you can set a positive tone for the holidays.

• Start early: Begin conversations about Christmas well in advance. Discuss what aspects of the season they enjoy and any worries they might have. Talking through plans can help them feel more in control.
• Visual aids: Use calendars, social stories, or visual schedules to outline the lead-up to Christmas. Highlight important dates like school holidays, family visits, or special events. Advent calendars can also be a fun way to count down.
• Plan for sensory needs: Christmas often involves strong sensory experiences like flashing lights, loud carols, and busy environments. Identify potential stressors and adapt as needed. For example, opt for warm, steady lights instead of blinking ones, or have quieter holiday music playing in the background.
• Communicate changes: If there are adjustments to routines, meals, or activities, let them know ahead of time. 



Stick To Routines as Much as Possible

Sticking to a regular routine during the holiday period can provide a sense of stability. Incorporating Christmas activities into their usual schedule can make the season feel less disruptive.

• Keep daily routines intact: As much as possible, stick to regular wake-up times, meals, and bedtimes—even on Christmas Day.
• Plan manageable activities: Introduce Christmas-themed activities gradually, such as shopping for decorations, putting up the tree, or switching on the lights at a specific time.
• Celebrate at home: Being in a familiar space often feels safer and less stressful than visiting new environments. If you need to visit others, plan shorter trips and bring along comfort items.
• Provide a quiet space: Whether it’s their bedroom or a designated corner, have a calm area ready for when they need a break from the festivities.



Make the Gift-Giving Experience Enjoyable

With thoughtful planning, this tradition can become more enjoyable.

• Personalised approach: Some may prefer the certainty of knowing what they’ll receive. Discussing gift ideas together or creating a wish list can make the process less stressful.
• Limit the number of gifts: Too many presents at once can be overstimulating. Agree on a manageable number, such as one gift from parents, one from grandparents, and monetary gifts from extended family.
• Pace the unwrapping: Open presents one at a time or spread them out over a few days to prevent sensory overload.
• Alternative wrapping: If unwrapping presents feels overwhelming, consider using gift bags or simple ribbons instead.
• Pre-assemble gifts: If a toy or item requires assembly, put it together before presenting it to avoid frustration or delays.



Build Positive Connections

By creating a supportive environment, you can help your loved one enjoy the company of others without undue stress.

• Host smaller gatherings: Limit the number of people at celebrations or stagger visits to avoid crowded settings.
• Set expectations: Let your loved one know who will be visiting and for how long. This information can help them prepare mentally and emotionally.
• Flexible participation: Allow them to engage in social activities at their own comfort level. It’s okay if they prefer to observe rather than actively participate.
• Educate others: Share information about autism with family and friends so they can offer support and show understanding during interactions.

Planning Autism-Friendly Meals for Christmas

Creating a meal plan that considers their preferences can make dining more enjoyable.

• Stick to favourites: Include familiar dishes alongside festive ones to ensure they have something they enjoy.
• Avoid surprises: If the table setup or menu will change, discuss it in advance.
• Keep mealtimes consistent: Serve meals at the usual time to maintain a sense of routine.
• Flexible seating: Let them choose where they feel most comfortable sitting, whether it’s at the table or in a quieter spot.



Setting Boundaries for a Stress-Free Christmas

The beauty of Christmas lies in its flexibility. It doesn’t have to follow a strict formula—what matters most is that it feels meaningful and joyful for your family. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and say no to events or activities that might be overwhelming. Skipping gatherings or declining invitations that could create unnecessary stress is completely okay. By focusing on the moments and traditions that bring joy and comfort to your family, you’re ensuring the holidays remain a positive and manageable experience. A peaceful and meaningful Christmas often comes from choosing quality over quantity when it comes to celebrations.

• Choose preferred activities: Whether it’s decorating cookies, watching a favourite movie, or simply sitting by the tree, focus on activities they genuinely enjoy.
• Simplify traditions: Adjust traditional activities to suit their preferences. For example, they might prefer a smaller, quieter tree or a low-key approach to Christmas carols.
• Celebrate achievements: Acknowledge their efforts and contributions during the season, no matter how small. This builds confidence and creates positive memories.



Don’t Forget Your Own Well-Being

As a carer, it’s easy to focus so much on creating a sensory-friendly and autism-inclusive Christmas that you forget to look after yourself. The holiday season can be demanding, and without proper self-care, burnout can creep in, leaving you physically and emotionally drained.

Don’t hesitate to lean on trusted friends and family for support. Whether it’s asking someone to help with preparations or stepping in for a short while to give you a break, having even a little time to rest can make all the difference. Ensuring your own energy and mental health are in good shape helps you show up fully for your loved one, making the holidays enjoyable for everyone.

A Celebration of Love and Inclusion

With preparation, empathy, and a willingness to adapt, you can create a Christmas that’s both magical and manageable for your loved one on the autism spectrum. By understanding how Christmas feels for them and tailoring the celebration to their needs, you’re ensuring that the true spirit of the season—connection, love, and joy—is felt by all.

This festive season, let’s celebrate in a way that embraces the unique needs and strengths of everyone in the family. After all, the best Christmas is one where everyone feels valued, comfortable, and included.